The Advantages of Competition
Yes, you read me right...I take back what I've said in my last blog...about competition being a disadvantage in the course of courtship...
You see, right after I wrote this last blog, I met up with Lorenz and had lunch with him. He was freshly motivated by our Psych prof, Mr. Maglalang, about this factor in courtship. Of course, while eating spaghetti and chicken in Jollibee, he discussed to me what advice this great guy had for him. After careful analysis, I change my perspective of competition...
Turns out, it's quite an advantage! (You guys read this clear!) Think this in a smart man's perspective: If I choose to go for the girl depite the high competition rate, I will be given more assurance that if ever she chooses to take me in, she won't go trading me for any of her other wanna-be Romeos, because she'd already be choosing the best!
Generally, girls with lots of guys pampering them with admiration would be prompted to choose the best, the creme de la creme, the biggest diamond in the minefield...gets? And think this: In the course of the relationship, trust goes high however you see it.
There! Just clarifying...hope you people find this info useful! Many thanks to our dear prof...
People need people to grow
No man is an island. Yes, it's a lamey, but it is true...it holds true to this time, especially this time that I'm reflecting on this basic thought. Why? Well it just occured to me that God actually sent me my elite set of agents- aka my true friends- to help me realize which areas I need reparing and development.
For instance, when long before when I was a rotten, untrusting pessimist who wanted to be left alone, He brought me to my lot in first year. He gave me Tiffany and Shane to help me accept and love myself. He gave me Therese, Herschel, and Leanne to help me trust people and love them unconditionally. They all helped me turn my feelings into audible words that they would gladly listen to- and not just to the limits of my notebooks and fantasy.
Later Paulo came and taught me about courage and how to value my friends right. Jonreph came with the lesson of, 'Never give up!' (tell me about it, esp. in Math)
I'm still growing, and I am happy that I am learning through this whole process. I am very thankful for the people who stood up for me, particularly in my early life. Most of all I am very grateful for God, who is forever crazy about me.
Funny bonuses...Andrew came to teach me about appreciating text messages. Now Paulo is teaching me (I think) how not to be afraid of phone calls...(will discuss this phobia some other time, it's not funny!- for those who are laughing)
Two hours ago, Lorenz and I were walking to CFAD...we discussed the need for others to grow. We rounded up on the topic of something like this: We build relationships with people and grow through sharing lives with them. It is in the nature of man to find people similar to himself and develop intimate bonds with them. This is an undeniable fact.
The only thing worse than death is being a living dead...walking the face of this world without yielding to growth.
OK, gtg- have to go back to my class by one pm...
The perfect 'It' person
My last night's conversation with Paulo (930-1200) provoked these thoughts to linger longer than I expected them to. I'm going to try to put them into words now before I eat my lunchie with Lorenz.
First, the misconception of Peach that all guys dare to be true with girls...turns out some wiser guys actually prefer to wait and see how things unfold between them and their female choice before making a move (my praises go out to these males, coz that means they use their brains more, not just leaving it to the inner workings of their hearts
Next! It is a fact that having a special relationship with a closer friend is complicated and more risky...there's lots to sacrifice and lots of obstacles to watch out for...constantly! Before, then, and after! Think about it. If you have relations with someone who's just a 'friend', there isn't so much to think of or to lose just in case things don't work out fine, right? And when you go your separate ways it won't really affect either parties as much as if you'd dig through a closer bond of say, camaraderie.
Now I'm not saying it's not gonna work...it's just THAT complicated when you start digging from the inner core of relationships...
Ah, here's from something I've recently read...guys actually look out for clues (of sparks of love, whatever you call it), whether consciously or not. Some may deny it, but yes, it is part of us that we look for the right one as we get on with our everday lives, hehehe. (Will discuss the stages some time, maybe...xp)
And another one that really surprised me...most sincere guys hate competition when it comes to the art of courtship. There are living examples among us to prove it! Wahahaha! Sure, there's the thrill of winning her first, but wouldn't it be more comforting to have the chances all to yourself? That is why some guy, particularly the reasonable ones, do not like wasting time on picking a rose already surrounded by thorns...gets?
Ah...and another thing...it sucks to be second best, doesn't it? Well, it's the same on love, so that also explains why guys who are into girls hate the traditional cockfight in the name of who gets the hen! Wehehe...whatever...
Think about it! Tell me what you think! Hahahaha!
Freedom!!!
Haaay! The end of the 3-day preliminaires has come to an end, and I am looking forward to a restful and chem-free weekend! Yey to that!
Today was very nice. Andrew and I went out for a little shopping together before his trip to China on Monday, hehehe. It's unusual to find guys who'd take walking for hours, and so I am fascinated with this creature! Hehehe...hey, that's a complement!
The shakes prove more of his rarity...we went to Fruitas for a quick thrist quencher...shakes (of course libre niya, wahahaha, dapat lang...I had pineapple and he had mango), and walked across to the bead shop to test the effectiveness of their mood rings (I've always wanted one, but I want the real thing...so I tested it by cold shakes contact, and yes, I was convinced of their authenticy).
While I was asking about it, we put down our shakes and did sales talk, whatever you call that...and when I was finally ready to leave with one of the rings (thanks a lot, Ahia), I was surprised to find my shake gone...ininom na ni Andrew di pa niya namalayan yung difference! Hahahaha! Weirdo...I recall him telling me he DIDN'T want pineapple shakes...
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