Love. It is such a big word, yet only a few dare talk of it. Unseen, but everywhere...you just have to open your eyes, and more importantly- your heart- to be able to see it. Love is not pride. Love is unselfish. Love is not infatuation. Love is not demanding what is best for you, but leans closer to fulfill the others' interests and needs. Love does not cause insecurities, but is like the sun to a seedling, under where it grows steady. Love is not something you just do-
Yah, so much about smart sayings of love. Ano naman kaya at nagsusulat na naman ako tungkol dito? Hmm...I have been so silent about this subject for so long, but I feel that it is about time I talked of what I perceive of LOVE.
Love in God's principles is unconditional. That is the sum of it. And did you know that God can choose for you through sending you a sign kung sino ang dapat na makatuluyan mo? :)
Oo, totoo yan, and I am not talking about gut feelings and compatability...kasi pag love, God will only give you someone na makakafill ng needs mo at shortcomings mo- during the time when you have really achieved maturity. And also, I am not talking of GFs/BFs here (wla ngang ganun sa Bible eh, hahaha).
Example: Kung ikaw ay impatient, God will give you a partner who is patient. If you've got two brains (one is lost, and the other one is looking for it- aka wa yutak, wahahaha), God will give you a smart and sensible partner to teach you that. :) And God always ensures a very firm and stable base for a perfect relationship...only possible through true friendship.
My Psych teacher once told me that those who succeed in relationships are those who persist in deep friendship. Sadly, that's the least-occuring relationship in our society today...
Yah, most people might not agree with that, that it is through trial and error that you know kung sino ang nararapat, or THE ONE...kaya nga may 'ligaw'. May 'dating'.
But isn't that taking matters into your own hands? Eh di ba sabi sa Proverbs: "Trust the Lord with all your heart and all your soul: in all ways acknowedge him and he will make your paths straight."
But sadly, the norm is the other way, the ligaw and date and all that ritual. Girl likes boy, boy likes girl, a little pursuing, compromising, and that's it! End of story.
But isn't it a wonder why we have lots of separations and divorces going on these days? Breakups, at the very least...which causes us to feel the loss and struggle- time, emotions, efforts, energy, money...and more importantly, broken relationships which can never be mended as well as before. And they say the norm is the best way...when the stories that we hear nowadays is mostly the same, about broken families and poor children suffering the most...
Come on, that is the biggest mistake of this society...it doesn't mean that everyone is at it means that it is the right thing. Smokers are socially acceptable, but it's not physically beneficial. Two-timer guys are hailed as macho, but they're sinning and hurting, right? Would you curse every three minutes just because it's cool for most people? No. Would you do PMS just because everyone in the university is doing it? No! In dealing withstuff like this, we should use our head- and the principles of God!
"People who ride the waves are those who just follow trend and can't think for themselves."
All I'm saying is that, in the ways of searching for the right partner, it is not acceptable to just go with your gut feelings and "follow your heart". God will give the right one if you seek and ask for it. Of course it can only happen if God thinks you're in the right age and that you have matured enough. Kaya ka nga binigyan ng utak eh, to rule over your heart and govern your emotions in making the right decisions.
I am not against ligaw and dating...some may even succeed there. But isn't it better to depend on God's recommendation for every one of us? :) Besides, trusting in him to choose for us saves us the time and energy. We also need not wrestle with doubts and bad experiences, because we know that he won't give us someone less than the best. That is, if we trust him whole (we should!!!).
So kids- guard your heart and don't let it loose- don't be too serious at this age if you want to avoid troublesome relationships. Mere crushies and attractions are fine, as long as they are consciously taken as pure admirations. But just hold your water until the right time comes.
*(feel free to comment! and if you want more of where i am getting this, read Josha Harris' I Kissed Dating Goodbye.-Php 195.00. And read your Bible!(Chronicles))
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